If we as a society hope to normalize breastfeeding, we need to show the bad with the good, the pain with the joy. Angela Burzo, whether she realizes it or not, is doing her part to show that a “normal” breastfeeding session can be rife with tears, discomfort, and struggle.
In a moving Instagram post, the mom of two shares an image of herself nursing her newborn baby girl, tears streaming down her face.
“I love seeing all these beautiful women in their beautiful nursing clothes smiling down at their babes as they lovingly look up back at them hand in hand while breastfeeding away,” she wrote. “That is not my reality, right now that is.”
And as much as she said she wants to “stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be,” she did all women a favor by not hiding her true feelings.
“Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping . . . whatever it may be it has been an emotional and painful struggle. Today has been full of no naps, sucking and not eating, crying and frustrated parents.”
So although this photo isn’t that idyllic snapshot we’re all used to seeing of a baby tenderly suckling on a peaceful mother’s breast, it’s just as accurate: “[It] depicts my reality of this breastfeeding journey so far and that first latch and the pain I endure.”
Keep it real, mama. You’re truly normalizing this journey and making it a little less lonely for those who come after you.