For parents of young children like me, the world can be a chaotic place. We contend with sleepless nights, an onslaught of dirty diapers, and daily grievances that never seem to end. The ongoing demands of the teeny tiny humans we love are enough to leave any new mom feeling completely obliterated.
In our moments of deepest struggle, it’s always great to have a seasoned parent who’s got your back. And thankfully, we don’t have to look very far. Babble contributor Chaunie Brusie has just entered the next phase of motherhood, and she wants us to know we’re doing an awesome job.
In a heartfelt Facebook post yesterday, the mom of four looks back on how much her kids have grown from babies to school-aged children. Since they’ve needed her for just about everything, Brusie is only beginning to accept that they no longer crawl around her house or require her constant care and supervision.
And in her nostalgic recollection of early motherhood, the writer realizes how truly difficult the journey has been.
“I look back at the way my life was, even two years ago, and I am genuinely amazed that I made it through. But the thing that really gets me is HOW HARD I WAS ON MYSELF. I was constantly feeling like I wasn’t doing enough,” she writes.
Despite working tirelessly to care for her little ones, provide for her family, and keep her home maintained, Brusie always felt pulled to do more and be more as a mom. The overwhelming worries of not being enough often left her feeling like a total failure. And since hindsight is usually 20/20 when it comes to parenting, the mom wasn’t able to understand just how much hardship she had endured until she passed through it.
Which is why she feels it’s vital to commend every single mother juggling the daily madness of raising small children.
“To all the moms who are out there right now, please believe me when I say you are doing incredible things. It’s not just you, it really is that hard,” she notes. “Wherever you are, mama, know that those of us on the other side see you and we’re cheering for you.”
It’s statements like this that keep me going as a mom.
Brusie was inspired to write her post after witnessing families at her local church struggle to make it through the service. As the mom sat with her four older children in peace, she watched on as the babies and toddlers in the room tested their weary parents’ patience. And in that instance, the mom felt a deep surge of compassion for those around her, along with her younger self.
“I had four kids in six years and the entire time I’ve been a parent, I’ve felt like I’ve been that always-stressed, always-struggling mom,” Brusie tells Babble. “To have that moment when all my kids were sitting there quietly and I wasn’t leaking milk or getting pooped on or struggling in any way … was so foreign. I realized how everything they say is true — it really does go by so fast, and there is a night-and-day difference from the ‘early’…